I Saw Another Ghost

First and foremost, my ass is healing. The hole used to be the size of an adult thumb, and now I think it’s more child-sized. I have been doing a daily bath with epsom salts, and my body has been doing the rest of the work with the superhealing mechanism that was triggered by the wound. The surgeon does not need to make any more hamburger.

Second, there was a lot of confusion surrounding my bed situation. I saw a doctor at the U of MN on January 4th, during which time I was “prescribed” a hospital-style bed that should also help me avoid further bed sores. I was handed the script and told to do the rest. I pulled a North Carolina and said, “Do what now?” I called my insurance company to find a durable equipment company; the insurance company told me that my doctor needed to call the insurance company first for a pre-authorization. I sent a message to the doctor who prescribed the bed, and got a message back late last Friday; when she called, the insurance company told her that I was supposed to go to the durable equipment company. So it took me a few days, but I finally tracked down a company that was contracted with my insurance company and might have what I need. I called them, the intake person laughed at me and told me that I was doing way more than I should have, and that she would work it out with the doctor and the insurance company.

Nothing is ever easy.

When I developed this issue and got the prescription for the bed, the first thought I had was, “How am I going to explain that to Nashville?” I mean, the surface area is going to be halved, but then again, it’s supposed to be adjustable, so……….

Turns out I worried for nothing. I called him over that first weekend in January and told him that I was due in the surgeon’s office Monday and that there was no way I could make a date happen on that day. We chatted for a while, and he told me about his neighbor attempting to steal his brand new puppy that he paid a breeder $1200 for. We talked about him setting up security cameras. I couldn’t seem to convince him that the neighbor “knowing Nashville was real, real mad” wasn’t enough of a deterrent from the neighbor trying again. Then Nashville made some excuse about it being late (even though he normally works 3rd shift and it was only 10 pm, so he was definitely used to being up then), and we hung up. He texted me the next day to tell me he hoped that I was feeling better, and I told him to give the puppy extra pets from me.

The day after that, I saw the surgeon again, so I had a better idea of the timeline with the healing of the hole in my ass. I called Nashville and left a message.

And then…nothing.

I waited about five days, and then I signed on to OKCupid to see when he last logged in. I hadn’t been on since Christmas, but the system told me that he was online in the wee hours of the morning on the same evening we traded texts. So in other words, Nashville was still cruising for chicks. He totally ghosted me.

I don’t know why exactly, but I’m not bothered enough to blast him. Instead I blocked him on Facebook and OKCupid, and automatically forwarded his texts to junk as well as marked his calls as automatically going to voice mail. I don’t expect him to call or text again since he cut off all communication, but I just wanted to be sure that he would have to go out of his way to figure out how to contact me.

I still have his Christmas gifts.

I couldn’t have been happier to be able to recycle his god-awful work calendar – which consisted of guys with hunting rifles hauling around the bloody animals they just shot.

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to confirm this, but I’m wondering if he got sucked into talking to women in Russia or the Philippines like my former hookup did. He is definitely the kind to give them his last penny because of some sob story.

Nashville used to tell me that he thought I was too “high class” for him, or too smart. He also bemoaned the fact that I can’t drive, but as soon as he said that, he would tell me how much he loved my neighborhood and that he would like to move to this part of Minneapolis/Saint Paul. I told him that he had to make some decisions, that there were certain things I couldn’t change, no matter what.

Rather than speaking to me directly, he chose to ghost me. Nashville always used to say that he never, ever broke up with any women, they always were the ones to break it off.

Well, Nashville, those words better stop coming out of your mouth. By pretending I never existed, you broke off the relationship.

I’m still looking for my unicorn.

P.S. – time to recycle my Star Wars cup – Nashville was using it as his spit cup when he stuffed his face with chewing tobacco



11 thoughts on “I Saw Another Ghost

  1. First, i need to know what sort of dog he paid that sort of money for? Must be well fucking bred. And he is also a fucking jerk off.Good on you for blocking his ass!!!! Im also glad your ass is doing better too!! xo

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    • Thank you, and my ass thanks you too! It was an all black German shepherd, female. The dumbass said that he was thinking of breeding her. I told him that he didn’t know the first thing about breeding, and there were all kinds of things you had to watch out for, including inbreeding. Plus – get this – he had two little Lhasa Apso dogs that he got from a breeder a few years ago that he RETURNED because they were too much for him to take care of at the time. I don’t know what the fuck he is thinking, because he works at least 4-5 12-hour shifts in a row every week, which is not conducive to taking care of a whole batch of puppies. What the fuck would he do if someone tried to return one of his for the same reason he gave up his previous dogs? He’s got dollar signs in his eyes and he’s not thinking anything through. There are plenty of shelter dogs who are well-behaved who need a good home, and who probably won’t be stolen from him.

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      • I agree, adopt don’t shop!!! I follow so many instagram pages from america that rehome bully breeds especially..and god they are beautiful dogs, its so sad. He sounds like a fucking dumbass…having one puppy and working like that is a nightmare. I remember last year i was working double shifts twice a week and i had a grown ass dog , and that was a nitemare itself. I didnt realise german shephards were that expensive. My dad loves that breed of dog…im not so fond of them, one tried to attack me when i was about 6-7…never forgotten it !!!! I also am wary of rottweilers…their facials are too hard to read…

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      • You know, a lot of it is how you raise and treat the dog. My ex had a Rott that just wanted to cuddle and lick me to death. My neighbors in Phoenix all let their pit bulls run free, and some would drink water from my hands or beg me to scratch under their collars. My sister has a female dog who is part terrier, and she loves rooting things out with her nose, but that’s really all she does that is specific to her breed. I just think if we don’t want asshole dogs, we have to not act like assholes to them. πŸ™‚

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  2. Isn’t it funny what we’ll put up with (and settle for) in the hope of a relationship? This guy dipped tobacco? (I guess that’s better than smoking.) Spends $1,200 on a freaking dog (that he never sees)? When he can’t breed the poor dog, will he start a dog-fighting business? If you’re too smart for this dude, what does that make him? Too dumb for you? (For some people, intelligence is a turn on.)

    Maybe you could find better prospects in a book club?


    • Oh god – dipping is definitely not better than smoking! I wanted to throw up in his mouth. One cabbie told me I should – very funny conversation. (I have a lot of conversations with cab drivers because I have at least 8-9 appointments a month they have to take me to.) Yeah, I haven’t ever tried a book club! Of course, I would have to take the short bus there and I’d be mostly blind, but I shouldn’t be too worried about what a dude looks like at this point, right?

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